From frantic to fulfilled: DeThinking desire

Distractions keep our real desires away

Lovely sunflower,

I pulled a card the other day: Sacred Desire. The phrase stuck with me, because desire can be such a slippery thing. There are the quick sparks that flare bright and vanish fast. And then there are the deeper desires, the ones that feel less like chasing and more like remembering. The card asked me: Do you know which kind you are following right now?

Some of mine, if I'm being honest, are just simple distractions. The late-night scrolling, leaning in to the obsessive curiosity rather than sticking to what’s necessary, the grasping for the puzzle piece that I believe to be missing from my life that never seems to fill the space it promises to. Those desires leave me emptier than I was before chasing them.

But there are other kinds too. The ones that feel steady and pull me closer to my truest self rather than further away. Those are very hard to ignore, even though we might try the best we can with all of our distractive desires. After all, it’s far easier to scroll social media than admitting that what we actually need is rest or connection.

On the card, you can see a girl sitting right in the heart of a flower, with her palms facing the sky. There’s something in the receptiveness of her posture that sticks out to me. She isn’t reaching or trying to grab what may pass her by. Instead, she’s creating space and trusting that what belongs to her will find her, just as the flower trusts the sunlight and the rain will return.

I don’t think that real desire is about frantically reaching, hurrying or grabbing something. As though fulfillment is just a little bit further out of our grasp. I believe it’s about something else. More like receiving without demanding. An example of this could be inspiration. It rarely comes when we demand it to, but rather when we allow it to flow to us.

We can see this all around us in nature. Flowers don’t chase after bees, they simply open themselves up for them, offering their nectar without any guarantee. Rivers don’t hoard the water, they let the water flow, trusting that it will keep returning. Maybe that’s the invitation of this card, to stop trying to wrestle our desires into existence. But instead, creating space to receive them. Letting them emerge, like petals unfolding.

Rather than the quick spark, the scroll or the distraction, sacred desire asks us to pause. It’s less about forcing things to happen and more about trusting that what truly nourishes us will grow when we give it the space to do so. Like the girl in the heart of the flower, it’s about allowing fulfillment to arrive naturally rather than chasing it down. 

💚 Question: What sacred desire has been whispering to you all along, waiting to be heard?